Are you familiar with the ache? The aching, longing, super sad and somewhat devastating feeling in the pit of your stomach that almost takes your breath away? I know perhaps I sound dramatic, and it’s possible that I am a bit dramatic, but… this ache hits me now and then, and it truly just *sucks*(no other appropriate word for it coming to mind).
It’s like I said in my last post, I am feeling a bit overwhelmed by my own thoughts, and when this happens, it takes some work to pull through. It’s a conscious effort.
Times like these I am extra sensitive. Times like these I am prone to self-pity. Times like these I have to watch out and make sure I make healthy choices in order to dull the emotional pain and in order to move through it.
I don’t think I am alone in experiencing this, although some of my own personal challenges might make me a little more prone to experiencing this ache, but I think it’s human. I think some people are really good at ignoring it and others really good at concealing it. Me, I kind of wear it on my sleeve, and I want to dull the pain, in a healthy way.
Unhealthy options that people, like myself, who suffer from depression, anxiety, ptsd, etc may choose to deal with the ache include *shopping in excess (I so wanted to do this today) *overeating *alcohol consumption *self-harm *food restriction*drug use… you get the picture. There are lots of unhealthy options, but, in actuality, there are a lot of healthy options too, they just don’t seem to come to mind as easily, especially when we might be used to using one of the previously mentioned coping mechanisms to soothe the pain.
What’s your vice? What are you doing to dull the pain? What are the healthy alternatives? Do you need some ideas?
For me, writing is one of the things that soothes the pain for me, blogging and reaching out to others who may be experiencing something similar, makes an enormous impact of me emotionally, especially nice is when I get comments (hint, hint).
Taking time to be active, especially the invigorating walks that I have been incorporating into my life more and more lately. It’s me time and it really feels so good. Even in the cold today, which was a little uncomfortable, it still felt good, I was oddly surprised.
Recalling happy moments, just the moments, simple moments. A moment of laughter with your child, a walk in a park and the smell of Fall leaves, the beauty in a candle flame… Little moments like these bring an almost instantaneous twinkle to my eye.
Turn on some happy tunes. Music makes my life so much more rich and full, but sometimes I forget. When I’m aching, physically and/or emotionally, I seem to forget what a difference some good music can make to my mind, body and soul. Turn it on and turn it up load if you are up for it, you might find yourself dancing in the living room, or maybe just tapping your foot.
Connect. Connect with someone, anyone. Pick up the phone and call someone, walk to a neighbor’s house (make up a silly excuse if you have to and preferably a neighbor you know), update your status on Facebook and see if anyone is available to chat, send out some “tweets” on Twitter and just connect. If things are really tough, call Lifeline 1.800.273.TALK. There will always be someone on the end of that line.
Hopefully this has given you a few healthy ideas to help dull the pain of “the ache”. You know, in all honesty, I am just reminding myself of the options I have, the good options. Let’s choose the good ones.